Fortunate to sleep in, to wake without an alarm naturally by the sunlight, It makes a difference in how the morning goes if I can step into her room and gently caress her face to let her know she’s safe. It helps us get on with the day much more calmly.
Today we were suppose to rise and fix the water main to the house. That was what we bought parts for yesterday.
Call all the salvage yards for a part-none to be found
Wait for the guys checks so they can go do their money run stuff, which includes bringing back some food. Today it was early which works well.
Resting to heal is a big part of our lives. It’s essential! When we need to rest, we speak up and take it. Either her or I will protect our rest time.
After nap it was time to tackle the growing hair problem. I hadn’t been interfering in Divinas self care & cleaning routine. But yesterday while she was cuddling with me, her hair plopped across my face. It was beginning to get matted up. It needed washed and combed. Today we did that, outside like a little kid. It was actually fun for her.
Please excuse the messed up yard. We are still trying to get situated with the space issue, we did build a room for the guys so Divina could have her own room. Everyone is in their room, but the timber is still finding its way out of the yard.
I don’t know how well I will remember things throughout the day by the time I can sit down to note them in the evening. It can be quite busy. We get pulled aside often by questions or projects from Eddi & the boys that really have nothing to do with us.
Being in a blended family has been a huge challenge as Divina does not speak Spanish and they do not speak English. There is very little communication except thru me. After 7 years of skirting around this to just make do or comply with the situation, it is now grating on our nerves. The living room has become the avoiding room.
Eddi had a plan for the day of things he wanted to accomplish, which he let me know, per the routine. It was all great until someone’s tummy said no, and we stayed close to home instead of making progress on the “get done this weekend” list.
Divina and I know we need to be adaptable, and so do the guys. We manage to keep the peace, but it’s not a warm cozy place when everyone is home. It is especially not when it comes to meal time. That’s another story.
We ended up making a trip for another part, food run and getting home to fold laundry.
Now Divina is resting in her room alone.
She is listening to music, mostly calm soothing chants or cello melodies. She will lay in bed quietly so we all can sleep, mostly! If there is still movement in the house, she may have a laughing outburst or a low moan. Some of these are ticks or responses to the voices.
Going forward, I will refer to the voices as the “guardians” as that is how she responds to them. We will have to figure out who or what they are together, because I still do not know. But sometimes they let her give clues. It just enforces the need to be with her as much as possible.
I’m tired, so I’m going to rest while she is resting.
Night Night
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LaLa 👋